I saw a blog that needs some kudos and some elaboration. While we have lots of new stories and a lot of laws we get little else. And for those who make it a feminist issue only you need to check into the Betty Ford Clinic because you are part of the problem. The blog below is good because it hits upon the very nexus that is needed to effect real change.
http://feministssa.com/2015/02/23/why-the-casual-sexism-at-uct-matters/#comment-11887
“Any man that alludes to women as whore. sluts or any of those terms piss me off. It is sexism at it’s worse and women who use those words are committing the same act of sexism.
Why does it matter? Is liking asking she asked for ‘it’. We had this debate about 20 years ago when a Miami prostitute was wearing see-through clothes. The rapists said she was asking for ‘it’.
I called the radio station and claimed that women were and are subject to an “inherent sexual bias”. In effect saying that guys can be whores but that girls really are. Words do matter and young children may begin to repeat the lies.
Is it any wonder then that we excuse this? Is it any wonder that a rape happens then the rapist is allowed to barter legally and the best a woman can get is a civil suit?
So, at the end of the day what has changed? Laws look pretty like the “whores” they allege to protect. I use that term for effect since it is the continued and prevailing attitude among males and our system of jurisprudence.
Look at rape or any other form of abuse and we get laws. Nothing but a cash crop with a bunch of broken women and the harassment associated with just going with the flow.
This is a good blog because it underscores in sexual terms a kind of free-floating bias against victims.”
The comment above is one I made in response and the one below the one case that I was alluding to from Florida. How does this happen and how will it change the future? In another case an immigrant was assaulted and justice was served but the underlying issue was “she deserved it”.
http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2010/12/vanishing-blonde-201012
Don’t get me wrong. Offenders should be made to pay but a greater emphasis should be made to alter perceptions and how our responses color our perceptions since we were little kids. ‘Experts’ disagree as to what age we stop forming our personality from about three to seven years of age. Given that, what can we do?
We cannot control everyone twenty-four hours a day but it is painfully obvious we are not making a lot of tangible progress. How do we preserve the natural instinct of men and women and still have respectfulness? Sexuality is not just a cognitive process. We have our perceptions and our instincts.
“According to this model of the psyche, the id is the set of uncoordinated instinctual trends; the super-ego plays the critical and moralizing role; and the ego is the organized, realistic part that mediates between the desires of the id and the super-ego.”
Id, ego and super-ego – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
This is the template and our lives, our conditions are predicated on interactions. One thing I have a problem is are those commercials where actors and athletes basically say, enough is enough.
Dana Voreskov :
“No More fawning, pandering, spineless, celebrities trying to show the world how wonderfully “enlightened” and “progressive” they are and trampling all over the remains of their own dignity in the process.
No More infantilizing women and demonizing men.
No More feminist propaganda.”
From Wikipedia
“Barefoot and pregnant” is a figure of speech most commonly associated with the controversial idea that women should not work outside the home and should have many children during their reproductive years. It has several other meanings as well.
The phrase “barefoot and pregnant” seems to have been introduced in the early twentieth century by Arthur E. Hertzler, the Horse-and-Buggy Doctor’ from Kansas: “’The only way to keep a woman happy,’ he said, ‘is to keep her barefoot and pregnant.’”[1] By mid-century, the phrase had passed into common parlance, so that an article from 1949 states, “By early 1949, TWA was—in the words of its new president, Ralph S. Damon—both ‘barefoot and pregnant.'”[2]
The variation “barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen” has been associated with the phrase “Kinder, Küche, Kirche” (translated “children, kitchen, church”), used under the German Empire to describe a woman’s role in society. A comparable phrase, “Good Wife, Wise Mother“, emerged in the 1870s in Meiji Japan, and was used as a means of restricting female access to the public realm there,[3] before spreading more widely in East Asian culture.[4]
All men are a stereotype to some feminists with absolutely no redeeming value and nothing to contribute. The men who have doting wives who are depicted as permanently emotionally disabled. From the Burning Bed to Archie Bunker and his Edith, they are secondary and mere props and sexual objects in the case of Farrah Fawcett.
There is a lot of fail here and yet, there are those women who become accustomed and go with the flow as much as Carmela and Tony Soprano. We have Charlie Sheen and his tiger blood, being elevated to a status of drug abuser and self-admitted ‘whore mongerer.” No more what Charlie? House Arrest?
Girls were girls and men were men? Today we have teens and politicians sexting and we have more Laws. What have those laws done? More sex offenders? All the while the number of incidents increase. America and the world portray sexuality being on the verge of illicit boundaries codified with Judges with teenaged girls and boys.
Then we have Miss Phoebe Cates and boobage while Judge Rheinhold finds himself pining for the perfect girl. The confluence of reality and embarrassment. The gray areas become diffuse and yet scenes of date rape and exploitation meld into the minds of young adolescent boys and girls.
And the race to deflower young women is all over the place. From Hermoine, and the Olson Twins to Hannah Montana and Taissa Farmiga the race to show their nude bodies or in sex scenes and scandals. It is like Barely Legal Magazine for young actresses. Taissa was depicted as a minor and in one episode she was having sex with a patient while he was dying. Kind of brutal with an explanation point.
You see, hormone-driven adolescents and middle-aged lurkers think about their conquests against those considered as easy. Two different messages being sent with exploitation of sexuality and the craven desires of Hollywood and musicians.
The answer is to respectfully introduce each gender with realistic views of what makes us human and down playing depravity or simply to examine ourselves. This is not meant to be male-bashing but to examine where we are and where we are going with respect to each other.
Maybe counseling new parents and expecting parents on how to act around children and even pregnant women so as not to traumatize children and infants.
Let’s start treating each other better. Let’s feed one another and a safe warm place to be. That adult was a baby at one time and I think the adult should not be just a statistic for Social Security purposes. Radical feminists need a change of heart and men who harass and debase women need to learn early our biological differences and respect for those differences.
Not to demonize women or men but to teach the Golden Rule. That starts early and is a lifelong process. We can not afford to be merciful, to the sick, depraved or poor. We need to do our part in making this country safe and be strong enough to lead to a better tomorrow. No more hatred directed to anyone whether they be straight, gay, military or civilian, adult and child. Can we evolve?
Let’s stop scandalizing sex and avoiding real help to real people, they are everywhere and denying this contributes to the pain caused to women around the world.
Floyd, Times Are Changin 