Is there any singular victim in this crime? Is a woman any more credible than a man? Especially one who spent most of their childhood protecting his mom? Some women (Belle Jar) thinks she is the only victim and that men can not be a part of that abuse? But what is the point to all of this?
She lives the part of a perpetual victim. Her aim is not to rectify the problems but to show how brave she is. To marginalize men ad hoc is to deny a powerfully ally. Besides her voice rings no louder than any other woman’s. That is bold and disrespectful to my mom, her three boys and her two girls.
We were taught to respect women even if those around us did not. Some young lady with a chip on her shoulder treats us as if we are Hitler and that her understanding transcends all men, women and children. She is a self-indulgent child with a victim’s mindset. One that she will not let go of.
As a five-year old I saw my mom abused. The death threat she suffered still resonates today but because Miss Jar thinks she is special she marginalizes my pain and says I do not understand. She has a cadre of acolytes who enable her dysfunctional behavior. Like a petulant child with candy-rotted teeth she hurls acrimony as if she was the Queen of Misery. And weak men who are at best subservient play along. All I can say, is beware of them. They are the frog on a scorpion’s backside.
I do believe I have a story and it’s theme is inclusive. This Belle Jar entity insults all men and puts all men in her narrowly defined sphere. I do not support man-hate anymore than misogyny. But hers is to make herself the mouth piece of abused women everywhere.
I cannot say that my abuse was any worse than her own, because that would be at best, presumptuous.